It’s a sad thing to be stuck in the friend zone. That is, when you are really interested in a person, but it seems all they’ll ever look at you is as a friend.
But it’s even worse to be stuck in the idea zone. That is, to remain in the realm of grand ideas but never bringing any into fruition.
The thought of that too me, is the scariest thing since the purge. No on a more serious note, the only thing more scarier to me than being stuck in the idea zone is being locked out of heaven.
But just like with tact and skill a body can get out of the friendzone, there are certain things which can get you out of the idea zones and into the reality of our dreams.
So read on, and I’ll be sharing some advice I’ve picked from 3 father figures in my life.
When kolade introduced me to Mr. Adekunle-Ajayi, now this is how I remember it, he said, “Ochulo and I, we have ideas that could change our world.”
Mr. Adekunle Ajayi looked quite pleased and began to make discussion with me as a father would with his son. Before he left though, he gave me some advice.
He told me that in whatever I had plans to do, one of the things that would help me, Is to set a definite time frame by which that idea/goal/vision ought to have been accomplished.
Working with a time frame in mind, would increase ones chances of succeeding at that thing.
Yesterday after church, I spoke with another of my fathers, Mr. Charles Adebayo. With him, I shared the fears which I just introduced to you.
He told me not to have any place for fear. But he didn’t stop there. He explained to me how the Internet was my greatest resource.
He said, “anything you want to do, there’s someone who would have thought of it, carried it out, and left jt on the Internet. Even if it’s not exactly the same thing but similar. And you can learn how to carry it out from the Internet.”
I find this very helpful. The Internet is home to lots of information. Positive and negative. When used well, the Internet is a tool to get us out of the idea zone and into our dreams.
For some, it is the fact that they feel incompetent or as Ayo would say, (no shades thrown here my g!) amateurish, that traps them in the idea zone.
If that’s you, or you know someone like that, here’s some advice from my biological father Mr. Francis O. Nmeribe.
My dad was talking to my sisters and I was in the room. What it was about, I’m not quite sure as I usually mind my own when they have father-daughter moments.
Somehow though, my ears tuned in to what I needed to hear.
He said, “Apple was built by amateurs. Microsoft was built by an amateur. But the titanic was built by experts.”
I’ll just let that sink in. I hope the words of these three wise men would find a place in your heart as they have in mine.
I hope they would mean to you as much as they mean to me.
I hope you value them.
But even more fervently, I hope you leave the idea zone and start living your dreams.
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Kelechi Ochulo 