YOU WON’T ALWAYS GET IT ON THE FIRST TRY, BUT THAT SHOULDN’T STOP YOU. 

It is said that whoever has not failed before, has not done anything for the first time. Now while failure could be relative and its meaning varying with different individuals, one constant applying to everyone is that you would not always get it right the first time. 

You fall while learning to walk, while learning to ride a bike the odds are great that you would fall and perhaps sustain an injury, and it is said that while learning to drive if you have not had an accident(reversing into an electric pole or hitting the goal post in a football field perhaps, you guessed right, those were my accidents) you have not started.

Whether you agree with this or not, the fact still remains that you won’t always get it right the first time. 

Given this piece of somewhat discouraging information, what do you do? Do you because you fail at your first try you give up? And pick the path of less resistance or do you keep on?

Many times I start writing something, it’s not flowing as I want and I get discouraged and leave it entirely. But this is wrong and something I plan to stop. Which is mainly why I’m writing this, because you like me might have gotten discouraged when you didn’t get something right the first time. Stopping because of that would not make things better but only end your chances of ever getting it right in future. 

You just have keep moving. Just like you did with walking, talking and writing, you’ll get the hang of whatever it is eventually. And in due time, you’ll get to the point where getting it on the first try becomes second nature, and whenever you touch it it turns to gold. 

Do have a great week ahead! 

Regards, 

Kelechi Ochulo.

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TWO THINGS THAT CAN KEEP YOU FROM MORE SUCCESS. 

Don’t let past failures get in the way of your future success.

Yes. This is very true. That you’ve tried and failed doesn’t mean you should just stop there, though I tell you sometimes it can feel like there’s no hope anymore, but still you have to keep pushing. 

If it were like that, I mean if all the greats an inventors gave up after their first few failed attempts we might not have the light bulb, airplanes, cars, electricity, iPhones to mention but a few products where the inventors had to fail and start again. 

Yeh yeh, you might be thinking someone else might have taken their place and invented it but you get what I’m trying to say. 

But more than that, it’s even more important that you don’t let previous success get in the way of future success. 

With the right mindset, one successful event, task or goal can be a stepping stone to more greater things or shall I say more wins! 

But the minute you decide to dwell on past successes instead of going to work, allowing your head to “swell”, thinking all there is to be gotten has been gotten, chai. I won’t say more than that. 

Previous successes are a good thing. Let them encourage you to do more. And that’s the key, do more. 

See ehn, If there’s anything you shouldn’t be contented with in this life, it’s how much you’ve achieved. *drops mic. 

*picks up mic again*

Please have a good day everybody and a wonderful week ahead. 

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I KNOW A GUY; DJS, VALUE PROVIDERS AND MONEY CHASERS!

I know a guy. He wants to be a DJ. He’s serious about it and I’m proud of him. 

  
He took to his Twitter the other day, to inform friends and haters of his new love. I sent him a Dm, I wanted to know just how serious he was. And he really meant it. 
I hope he knows that when I said I was in support I really meant it too. 

In a time when everyone wants to take photos, start a cloth line or model it’s very refreshing for me to see someone doing something outside the established clichés. 
I think the reason for that, why people are crowding those three I mentioned earlier is because they’ve adopted this chase money mentality. And they feel like oh people have made it through this fields so I must too, forgetting that they are breaking and entering Into an already crowded market and are making matters worse for themselves. 

  
See money is like someone out of your league. Why you spend time and energy chasing after money, money is chasing after the person in its league. That person is called value. 

So what if you stepped up? What if you provided something people value? Things that are in demand? If the demand is not existing already, then create it. Help people see why they need what you’re offering. 

The result would be that this time, money would be the one chasing you. 

  
I hope in your life, you get to the point where money chases after and overtakes you. 

It’s my wish and prayer for you this day and also that you have a wonderful week. In Jesus Christ’s name amen! 

  
Happy mothers’ day all!

FOR THE STRENGHT TO MOVE ON.

You ever been in a situation where you try so hard in an old relationship that doesn’t seem to be going anywhere. 

Like you know it’s not going anywhere but you just hang on you know? For the sake of old times and all of that? 

Well I’ve been there. And what usually happens is that forcing it? Rather than fixing stuff it’ll most often sour the relationship even more. 

Everyone comes to our lives for a reason. Some have their purposes fulfilled in a short term. Some in the mid term to long run and some would be there for the rest of our lives.

Interestingly, some won’t even discover/fulfill their purpose in your life. They just come and perambulate. But this isn’t about them. They are they. Let’s leave they alone. 

So my point is, we are not going to be friends with everyone for ever. 
Some people we would have to let go you know. Not because of pride, arrogance or any of that. But because we change, we grow, we develop different interests and get on different paths. 

In my opinion, when we force things we ruin the good memories, good times and lessons we’ve accumulated over the years or time spent together. 

So here’s what I suggest. Should you find yourself in a relationship that’s gone sour past the point of no return, it’s time to end it. 

Treasure the memories, treasure the good times, and all the lessons and just let it be. 

After all, in the words of Sandi Lynn, “at some point you have to realize that some people can stay in your heart but not in your life.”

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DONT PLAY YOURSELF.

Have you ever been in one of those situations, where in all sincerity you know you were the one who put yourself in a position of disadvantage? Or should I say in a point to be insulted? 

Well, if so you played yourself. 

The message here is simple. Don’t play yourself. Don’t ever play yourself. 

Sometimes we play ourselves unconcsiously. You have a class to attend an you decide to cut class for no reason. Congratulations. You just played yourself. 

What if in that class the instructor touched on very key points you’ll need later? Besides all the lessons are like pieces of a puzzle that might not look like anything on their own, but are part of the big picture. 

You are playing yourself if you have opportunity to learn a skill, but you pass on the opportunity because no one else is doing something like that. Or maybe you are ashamed for one reason or another. 

If so, you are playing yourself big time! Because no one ever becomes truly wealthy with just one 9-5 job. And the way Nigeria is that jobs are not guaranteed, you need to have something doing other than what you’ve studied in the university. 

You are playing yourself if you have the opportunity to learn a foreign language and you pass. Extra languages and skills are some of the things that look attractive on a C.V and set you apart from other job seekers! 

You are playing yourself if you look down on others and pass on the opportunity to make contacts and meet new people. Because you are no fortune teller and can’t write someone’s future off. You never know whose help you might need in future. 

You are playing yourself if you think you are being smart by cutting corners and cheating. You are setting a trap for yourself that would catch up to you in the future. 

I’ll allow you to figure out other ways in which you can play yourself and avoid it. 

Don’t play yourself. Don’t put yourself in a position to be insulted or that would be a disadvantage to you later. 

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SOME ADVICE FOR THE NEW YEAR! 

Hey everyone! Let’s take a minute of our revelry to do a brief reflection shall we? Thank you. So here’s the thing. 

This same time last year, there were probably resolutions made and goals set. Probably. Now I want to ask you, would you being honest agree to have achieved that? 

If no, that’s okay. You aren’t alone. I at times, am haunted by the goals I set for myself with a deadline of my 14th or was it 16th birthday now. Let me just say it’s a work in progress. 

Well why is it so? Why do we make resolutions and cave before the end of the first quarter? You’re lucky if you even get to the end of the month! Why is this so? It’s become so bad that, when you if you tweet your resolutions, trust Twitter, there’ld be people who’ll deride you. 

I feel it’s because it’s usual to make decisions in the excitement of the moment. We sometimes make this decisions and promises to ourselves without carefully calculating the costs. And it’s sad, because if there’s any mortal who you should treat your promises to with the utmost care, it’s yourself! 

So what can we do to make these resolutions have more meaning. What can we do in order to make 2016 be different for us and to actually achieve these goals we’ve set for ourselves! 

One, we’ve got to be familiar with the price! Every tom dick and Harry knows that there’s a price to pay for success. It’s no more news. But not as many people know what exactly that price is. So get familiar with the price. 

What would you have to sacrifice to get this? Would have to watch less tv to study more? Or maybe wake up earlier to go for a run if such is your speed? I hope you have an idea. Know what it’ll take and be prepared to do it. 

Again, it’s been said that a goal not written down is merely a wish. A goal written down with steps becomes a plan. A plan followed through with action is almost always equals to success. Even if you didn’t get exactly what you wanted, you’d be closer to success than the one who merely wished. 

So break your goals into plans, that span across months and weeks which can be further broken down into tidbits. Breaking your plans into weekly/daily activities make for easy remembrance and subsequently, success! 

Finally, don’t go to sleep on your good ideas this year. JUST DO IT. Notice I’m capitalizing. Well this is mainly for me to be honest. I’m shouting at myself at this point, because it’s pains me that I didn’t write some things in 2015. It pains me that I didn’t bring some ideas shared with me into light this last year. The relationships I allowed to die… I could go on and on but I’m all about positivity you know. And I don’t want to jinx this brand new year. 

But the thing is, you might have such things you should and could have done last year but for some reason you weren’t able to do. That’s alright. You’ve got a new year/chapter to write as you wish. A clean slate if you will! So you make it count. 

I really hope you put these into consideration dear reader. 
I hope 2016 is bigger than you ever imagined. 

Most importantly, don’t play yourself. 

Remain blessed! 

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GET IT DONE! 

Today was a good day. 

At the beginning however, it looked like it was going to be the opposite. 

We’d made plans for the day, but Lagos traffic as it often does, had other plans and imposed it’s agenda on us. 

I was annoyed that we had to change plans at first, but knowing fully well what i can and can’t control I decided to adjust my attitude. 

The day went quite well, I did get a lot of sleep and balanced my accounts in the shut eye realm, which was really a high point for me. 

The most important thing however, is that I was always to make significant progress on a project I’ve been putting of for a while. 

What happened? 

Well today, as I awoke and I was going through my daily plans I just decided that I had to do it! 

I made the decision, and I was able to do it. 

At the moment, I really feel good with my self.

So let’s get you feeling that way too. 

I’ll love for you to ponder over some important things that you’ve been putting off for like forever. 

Please do. 

Did you? Great! 

Now I need you to decide to get it done Tomorrow. 

No excuses, no buts, no ifs. Just do!

Get it done tomorrow and see the difference in the way you’ll feel. 

I look forward to you getting results!

Cheers! 

THE SEEMINGLY HARD THINGS.

THE SEEMINGLY HARD THINGS. 

I was talking with my friend Simi yesterday when she mentioned how tough school is for her at the moment. According to her it wasn’t Math, Physics or Chemistry that were her problem, but Academic skills. A compulsory class for students in her school that focuses on skills like writing and the rest. 

She says it’s quite stressful and since she started school in September, one of her friends have dropped out for the mean time, and some others tease her because she’s the only one who attends every class. They claim it’s cause she’s still “young.”

I empathize with Simi because I have and still am and still would in the future, deal with hard things. I’m not wishing my self ill, but I say this knowing that the path to achievement and success in one’s goals is fraught with challenges and these “simingly” hard things. (hehe, you see what I did with Simi’s name yeh? Oh you don’t. Ok moving on)

I’ve come to understand that in this life, there’s a price to be paid. There’s always a price. Everyone has their own share of hard things. There’s no two ways about it. The only differences exist in the form my hard things may take vs yours, and when I decide to face these hard things or other wise pay the price. 

You might be doing these hard things, these stressful things and making the sacrifices now, while I might be laughing or teasing or simply just being chilled. In the long run, that choice would catch up to me. 

Jim Rohn said, “you can either pay now or play later. Or play now and pay later. But you would always pay.”

I choose to pay now. 

I choose to do the hard things now and live easier later. 

I choose to work my butt of now so I can get what I want later. (I don’t need butt anyway) 

One needn’t think later would be so soon or very far ahead either. Take Simi for example. If she consistently takes her academic skills classes and does everything she has to do now, in two or three years from now, the difference in her education would be very clear from those of her counterparts picking the easy way out. 

And that’s what I use to encourage myself whenever I have to do hard things and those around me seem to be picking the easier way out. I simply remind myself that we’re headed for different destinations. And that kind of comforts me. 

Now, as we’re different individuals, what might have a cooling and comforting effect might not do the same for you. Heck, even panadol works for some and doesn’t work for others. But I want you to know that it’ll be worth it in the end. I know. I know.

So this post is for Simi, and for all others who have to do these hard things. No matter how young or old, it’s never to late to pay the price for a better and brighter future. 

With love, 

Kelechi Ochulo.

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WASTED.

I’m going to be talking about lost opportunity. 

This morning, a thought popped into my head. It was that, what if because of all the blog posts I’ve put off, all the books I haven’t read and goals I didn’t see to completion are keeping me from being ahead right now. 

As much as I’ll like to deny, I feel like, if I hadn’t put anythig off and done everything I’m supposed to do, I might be ahead.

Though, how far I’d be is not certain, what’s certain is that I won’t be here. I’d be a post or two ahead. 

Thinking about this has made me realize how dangerous it is to put off important tasks till later, to treat goals laicadaisically and stuff like that. 

 While we shouldn’t cry I’ve spilt milk, we can and should do everything in our power to stop more milk from spilling. 

So from now on, I’ll try to remember the far reaching effect of what I’m doing before putting something off.

I hope you will too.

And that’s why I’m writing this.

Let me do like they do in movies.

A wise friend once said, every step we take is bringing the future closer. 

I think that’s how she put it. 

7  STEPS YOU SHOULD TAKE TODAY TOWARDS YOUR DREAMS! 

Amina, 

Thank you so much for sharing. I was not there but I have equally benefitted from the speaker. 

I’m so inspired as a result of reading this that I feel I should just add a few things to prove to your readers the truth of all you’ve spoken. 

1. Write down your dream. It is said that a goal not written down is merely a wish and a plan not written down is not a plan at all. 

Without writing your dreams down, that’s all they’ll be dreams! Stored in the folders of your imagination. 

Writing them down, is helping it to manifest in physical form and as such is very tantamount to your dream becoming a reality.

2. Speak your dream. It’s true that whatever we repeat over and over again we begin to believe. That is why someone who’s gotten deep in the habit of lying sometimes finds it hard to tell which is true and which is false. 

What we believe, eventually becomes what we are. 

3. Sow into the dreams of others. I believe so much in the principle that whatever you wish/pray another person, is granted unto you in that same moment. 

If you want something to happen to you, pray the same for another person in need of it. 

And that’s how I feel about dreams. For our own dreams to be fulfilled we have to sow into the dreams of others. One way to do it, as I’ve introduced already, is to pray that the righteous dreams of another be accomplished.

Pray that they find all they need to achieve their dreams. 

Prayer is not all it takes to sow though, you can do this in many forms. 

Infact, simply listening to the others talk about their dreams and being optimistic no matter how bizarre it might sound is sowing! 

4. Discover God’s purpose for your dream. God’s thoughts are not our thoughts. Neither are his ways our ways. Nevertheless, they are to bring us to a good and expected end! 

I’ve learnt from experience, especially through my university admission process, that while were planning for ourselves, God had even brighter and better plans for ourselves if only we’d get Him involved! 

Get God involved in your dreams and yield to his tweaks and adjustments to your plan and you’d arrive at a great end! 

5. Guard your heart. Ever wondered why whenever you decide to live a good life or do something good, the adversary sends something your way to thwart it?? 

Time without number I’ve experienced this but I won’t even go into detail for time’s sake. 

The minute you decide to pursue your dreams and be useful in life, the adversary would send something or someone your way in order to frustrate it. 

As such, you’ve got to keep your guard up. 

Brother or sister with a dream, you need to watch and pray. 

6. Keep the company of other dreamers. This way, you’ll be motivated and encouraged by those in your team to go after your dreams. 

Take for example Amina and I now. She’s a writer as well. See as she posted this and my fingers sprung to action? 

It’s kind of the same effect when you have fellow dreamers as friends.

7. Start moving in the direction of your dream now! Notice Amina used today, but I’m saying now?? Yes now! Now is the time. There has never been, neither would there ever be a better time than now to move yourself in the direction of your dreams! 

One needn’t think of ginormous steps when we say move yourself in the direction of your dreams.
Simple baby steps are all that matter. Baby step your way to your destination. 

A step in the direction of your dream today could be setting aside the time to clearly decide what it is you want to accomplish. 

The next thing would be to write it down. And place it where you can see it everyday! 

Then, you can now begin to apply all other steps mentioned in this two articles, in no particular order. 

And when you’re done, there’s always more advice where this is coming from and I’ll be more than excited to help at no charge at all. 

So thank you so much Amina, for what you’ve done! I’m grateful. 

In conclusion, I leave you with the words of John keating from  the 1989 movie dead poets society. 

“Carpe carpe carpe diem

Sieze the day boys and make your lives extraordinary.”