5 ideas to INSTANTLY turn your life around and Achieve your goals BEFORE THE YEAR IS OVER.

Here are some ideas that I’ve been learning from mentors and applying the last couple weeks. I feel following these to the detail would bring me a lot closer to my end of the year goals than anything else.

Don’t try to reinvent the wheel. You would either lose a ton of money or time in the process, and there is the risk of having nothing to show for it. You need to find somebody who is operating in your field and winning and model, not copy but model, what they do! This is advice that works in anything from writing papers(lol trust me I would know), to starting a business.

Proximity is key. They say your income is the average of your 5 closest friends, and I firmly believe they. If you want something or want to become a certain somebody go to places where people who a) already have that thing, and b) people who want to have that thing congregate. The advantages of being in that atmosphere of people gunning for similar goals cannot be overstated. Just by being there your eyes are opened to possibilities you never thought possible and networking.

This next one, goes hand in hand with the previous tip and has a lot to do with what you feed your mind. One thing I have convinced myself is that the difference between me and the people who have what I want or the people I want to be like can be boiled down to three things. One, what they feed their mind mind with; Two, how they spend their 24 hours, and Three, the people they associate with. I then decided that one way to achieve my goals is to immerse myself in the same content as my mentors. Not to hate on rap but music has been reduced to just when I’m in the gym and occasionally I would listen to an audio book  in the gym instead, that’s how deeply I am trying to immerse myself.

Careful who you take advice from. If they don’t have what you want you don’t have any business taking their advice. For example, a broke individual doesn’t have shit to tell me about where to put my money and investing, and a dude who’s never had girlfriend can’t teach me how to get a girl . Once you get started on this journey you would have a bunch of naysayers and negative people who try to tell you it won’t work out or that the people you are following are scammers. If such a person doesn’t have what you want don’t listen to them.

Lastly, never eat lunch alone. I have a mentor who said in the last 15 years he’s never eaten lunch alone its always with a client or prospective business partner. Thats a whole lot of lunches which translates to a whole lot of deals which means a whole lot of money. So I put my own spin on it, I will not eat lunch alone, it will always be with people who I can learn something from or people with whom I am interested in furthering a relationship with.

I would love to know which of these ideas you thought was really cool or which of these ideas you’re already working on.

Remember execution is key.

PEACE BE STILL!

Hello dear friends, I hope you’re having a great Sunday so far. I know I am. 

One thing I did differently was that I decided not to play my regular music today, I played church hymns instead and I feel in many ways I’m reaping the rewards. 

One hymn in particular, “Master, the tempest is raging(105), spoke to me in a profound way today. The hymn is centered on the Saviour’s experience calming the storm which can be found in Mathew 8:23-27. 

The message I want to share is from the chorus of the hymn which goes thus, 

[Chorus]

The winds and the waves shall obey thy will:

Peace, be still.

Whether the wrath of the storm-tossed sea

Or demons or men or whatever it be,

No waters can swallow the ship where lies

The Master of ocean and earth and skies.

They all shall sweetly obey thy will:

Peace, be still; peace, be still.

They all shall sweetly obey thy will:

Peace, peace, be still.

And the thought in my mind why the song was playing was this, “A ship is a vessel not so? It’s so. And from scriptures, I think in psalms and Isaiah 52, I know that we are the vessels of the Lord. So putting two and two together, I can substitute vessel in place of ship in the hymn. 

Then we’d have, 

No water can swallow the vessel where lies the master of ocean and earth and skies. 

And that was when it hit me. 
If I live in such a way that I can have Christ reside in me, then it is assurance that principalities, powers, demons, men, and women, difficult people, challenges, mood swings, disappointments(insert the one that relates to you) etc etc can not overcome me because no water can swallow the vessel where Christ is in. 

I really hope this speaks to you as it did to me. My prayer is that I, as flawed as I am, can live in such a way that I am worthy of Christ’s companionship. It’s my prayer for you to today, knowing fully well that with him we’d always overcome, in Jesus Christ’s name, Amen. 

Thank you for reading this far. 

Do have a lovely week. 

Kelechi Ochulo. 

YOUR RESPONSE, YOUR CHOICE: THE MADNESS ON LAGOS ROADS AND WHAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT.

What is it about driving in Lagos that would turn the most gentle individuals to savages? In all my musing, I am yet to find out. I can only hope, no decide, that whenever I drive, I would be different. 

I was listening to the radio some time last year, on the way to a function, when the radio presenter introduced a challenge. He announced a prize of Fifty thousand Naira for anyone who could drive from the main land to the island without abusing any other road user. 

“Pft, easy!”, was my response. But that was before he introduced the catch. The catch was that no one should abuse you too. And everyone in the studio began to laugh like it was something impossible. Maybe just maybe, because they’re right and it actually is? 

As much as like to defy norms and limitations given by society which most people gladly adopt, I having lived in Lagos for getting to four years now, cannot deny the fact that it is impossible do drive such a long distance, braving the traffic, without being abused or yelled at. When such things and people as reckless cyclists, dreaded drivers of the yellow bus, and seasoned captains of the beat up molués still exist. It is indeed a given. An event we have the least bit of control ever.

My style in situations and events I have no control over however, has always been the same. One in which prevents me from unnecessary stress and headache. And that is too leave that which I have no control over while focusing on the things which I can control. Most at times, my response and attitude to the things I can not control. 

When driving in Lagos, aye and in all other activities of life, we can not control how people treat us. We can however decide how we respond. On Lagos roads for example, We can decide if we’d chase them down and cuss them out or if we’d simply smile and go our way. We can decide if we’d pay attention to their curt remarks or if we’d ignore them and remain at a higher place. The latter one which avoids us stress and discomfort.

I understand that there are many hurtful things that other road users would do that can make you want to lash out. But with time keeping your cool gets easier and soon you’d be unfazed by their actions. 

Living a positive life is something which can be very challenging yet rewarding. One way I’ve been able to live one, is by making sure that all that comes out from my mouth are positive. No shaming, abusing, or bringing down with my mouth. After all, as the good Lord taught, it is that which comes out from a person, that defiles him/her. 

Enough with the taking from my end, what do you think? 

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Are you living for now ?

Make hay while the sun shines, the old saying goes. A modern phrase on the same value as developed by Stephen covey author of 7 habits of highly effective people is “begin with the end in mind.”

A lot of times people live their lives without taking thought of where they want to go or where their actions are taking them. All of a sudden they arrive at a dead end and begin to regret and think: “if I had known.” 

Trust me on this, that is one place you don’t want to be. The knowledge that you had the opportunity to turn something in your favour, or to make decisions that would have made you qualified for a once in a lifetime opportunity , but you failed to utilize it all because you didn’t stop to think or plan it out can be at times suicidal. 

That can be avoided. All you have to do is stop living for now and take time to check where your actions now are leading you too. Decide the kind of future you want for yourself and consciously make decisions that would positively shape and create that desired future. 

The choice is yours. As for me I’m definitely not living for now !